Progress

Progress-a movement toward a goal or to a further higher stage. Advancement in general.

What is your goal today? What is the one thing that you want to accomplish today? Whatever that is keep in mind that it is probably completely different from mine, and in the rare case that we both have the same end game today, the ways in which we can achieve these things are different. There is no wrong way. A person who isn’t yet a multi-sensory being will tend to believe that progress has to look linear and must look like their idea of progress.

The thing about all this is the following;

we all have different goals, different experiences, different steps that we want to take in order to achieve our goals. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others. We need to stop listening to what others consider success and progress. We need to worry about staying on our own lane and keeping our eyes on our prize! Remember when our teachers used to tell us to keep our eyes on our own paper? It makes sense now, doesn’t it? No one truly knows your heart, they may be able to relate but no one really understands your feelings 100%. Everybody’s experience in this planet is different. We all have our own definition of success, therefore our definition of progress is different. Just because you can’t see nor admire the person’s next you progress it doesn’t mean that they haven’t made any. Who are you anyways to judge anyone? We are so caught up on the person next to us beating us (which I am not entirely sure as to where we are racing) that we forget ourselves, our growth.

You can’t compare your progress with anyone’s not even those whom you think are “inferior” to you!

You don’t have that right. You do not know anyone’s struggles, inner demons, nor experiences. You do not know of their daily internal battles within themselves. Ask yourself this; when you have been at the lowest point of your life and someone close to you questioned your progressed, or better yet told you that you haven’t progressed, how did that make you feel? Because getting out of bed was a struggle, feeding your kid was another and taking yourself to work was another and that is progress enough. Remember how these statements made you feel. So why would you want to inflict such pain onto another human being. Why would you judge them when you didn’t like being judged? What makes you such an expert on progression in somebody else’s life? Don’t treat others how they treat you, treat others how you want to be treated.

I have been guilty of such acts. I have torn people I love down, thinking in my head that I was giving them the best advice, and pushing them, motivating them to do better. I thought that the “tough” love concept would work, that it was healthy. Boy was I wrong! Not only did it not work, I hurt people and I probably made them resent me. If I ever did this to you I am truly sorry, you did not deserve it. I am evolving and I have made many mistakes. But the simple fact that I am here admitting this taking responsibility for my actions and striving to be a better person than whom I was yesterday is progress enough.

Everyone’s progress is different. So stop worrying about everyone else’s progress, worry about your own, and don’t let anyone make you question yours or where YOU are with your own life. People will always talk and have opinions on what you should do, on what progress is. But only you can truly define it for yourself!

As we get through this last month of the year, let us reflect on how amazing this year has been! Whether you terminated toxic relationships, started something new, overcame an obstacle no matter how tiny or big any of your accomplishments were-DO NOT LET ANYONE JUDGE YOUR PROGRESS! People will always have something to say! It is usually the people closest to you or the ones that you go the hardest for that have the most negative shit to say about you and your life. Even in the case that you might feel as if you haven’t progressed remember slowly but surely wins the race. Making it to December is progressed enough! Especially if you are a minority, a woman, a man, a child, a being period!

When this is released there will be 24 days left of 2020, of an entire decade. There are still 24 days of progression, of improvement, of growth, to set and start working on some goals. 24 days can change your entire life. Don’t let anyone lead you to believe that it is too late, that it can’t be done nor that you haven’t progressed. Are you where you were on January 1, 2019?